Small victories bring satisfaction now that I’m unexpectedly single again
As I changed several lightbulbs today and took the trash to the curb, I thought, “Wow, I’m kind of proud of myself.” Now, I know those are really, really small things to do. Very insignificant. But, then again, those were things I used to take for granted that my husband would do. It’s been five months since he left and I am picking up the slack. I’m now doing lots of little things, and some big things, that he used to do. So I got to thinking that this is something to celebrate.
I am making it. I have been through a lot since my husband and I separated. I have been through every negative emotion possible, but I have not given up. I have cried, yelled, vented, and agonized. And I’ve had lots of emotional ups and downs. But today I’m in a good place. I have hope for the future. I’m still anxious about how the divorce process will go, since we’re not through it yet. I hope it will be over quickly and that it can continue to be fairly amicable. I look forward to the day that it’s final, but I’m also content in today, in knowing that I have had some small victories, like remembering to take the garbage to the curb and shedding more light on my kitchen.
Yes, celebrate those things!!! Recognizing the things that you do now is part of you becoming independent. I kept our house after I got divorced and I still remember the day that I walked in through the front door, looked around and said out loud “this is mine!” (and it really did take a few months to get to that point). Be proud of ANY step you take forward 🙂
I’m in the same place. I can now change batteries, make small repairs and I take the trash out every week.
I’m still hoping to someday have someone who will take out the trash, pump my gas etc.